Hello there amazing bunch of people! I know it’s been a while, and trust me, it hasn’t been easy. Sometimes I want to just give up and not even do anything at all, but then I wake up everyday and see my mom and I can’t help but be motivated. She’s my greatest joy and my pillar that I pray will never fall.
Gimme a loud amen if you agree mothers are awesome!!!! Amen!
So, today’s post will be slightly different from our actual topic but I just feel it’s something of great relevance and should have a chance to be featured on here.
Recently, I posted something on my whatsapp status about “secrets” and I broadcasted that it was okay for people on my cl (contact list) to be brave and talk to me. It was supposed to be therapeutic, cause at that particular time, a series of bad events occurred in my life and I was usually really sad and depressed and the only thing that kept me sane was this special someone that understood absolutely everything. (nope I’m not expantiating on that someone 😂😉) so I thought, if I’m going through this, then there must be tons of other people going through worse with no one to talk to and I always want to help. So I posted the bc and assured everyone about the safety of their stories and people started reaching out. Like it was so crazy how many people I had to talk to all at once and I didn’t even think people would take it seriously, but I was so overwhelmed by the number of people who trusted me enough to share their grievances with me.
These amazing people have also given me the permission to share their stories with the world through my blog, but they’ll remain anonymous as I promised and I just hope that this will serve as a source of inspiration for other people out there who are still hiding behind their own skin to come out and throw paranoia into the bin. Here, you will not be judged, rather you’ll be helped. Always remember that I love you❤
Abused and used.
My first story centers around sexual abuse. A girl of about age 4 or 5 who lives with her parents and 3 siblings: let’s call her Toyebi. (if there’s anyone bearing that name here, please don’t be offended. We ain’t talking bout ‘ you hunnay 😉😘). Toyebi is your regular little girl, but extremely shy and reserved. She rarely spoke to anyone, not even her parents and I think her quietness made her easy prey for the wicked. At 4, Toyebi was traumatized by a supposedly favourite cousin and went through a case of ‘rape’ in the hands of this unfortunate boy (yes he was just a boy of approximately 15 years old! ) and he defiled this little girl, making her go through pain that could literally kill!
Toyebi grew up and matured into a beautiful teenager, carrying the mental scars of her childhood tragedy into the future. And as an unfortunate fate would have it again, a distant uncle decided to visit the family and spend the vacation with them. He was funny, smart, cute, easy to talk to and very down-to-earth, so it was only natural that the kids grew to like him instantly, unknown to them that he was a wolf in sheep’s skin. He took his chance and took advantage of Toye’s meekness and he scarred her for a second time. (imagine going through something so horrific for a second time in a lifetime😩). Her uncle even went ahead to mock her about not being a virgin and he said he didn’t do any wrong since she was supposedly already having sex.😭 Toyebi’s parents are very respectful Christians and her dad is even a pastor and that was part of her reasons for not speaking up, especially after her uncle threatened to announce to the whole church that their head pastor’s daughter wasn’t a virgin and was having sex with half the men in the congregation. Toyebi couldn’t afford to bring shame to her family, so she kept mute, and every night after everyone had gone to bed, her uncle would crawl into her bed and forcefully have his way with her, while she cried silent, heartbreaking tears. This continued for the duration of time her uncle spent with her family and with every single tear, her soul hollowed, reeling deep into darkness.
To be honest, I cried so much as she related everything to me and I wanted to be with her and hug her close, but we were texting through whatsapp and there was no way I could see her. I did my best though and I hope she’s over the depression she was in. She’ll be reading this and I just hope wherever you are, you find happiness in everything you do. You’re an amazing person and even though during highschool, I wasn’t really close with you, you were such a smart, wonderful and gentle person. Nobody and definitely not you deserves to go through something so atrocious but I guess life just has a f*cked up way of treating people. And I hope you find inner-peace and calm within yourself inshallah. I really love you babe and I’m glad you trusted me enough to share your story with me, and I hope this serves as a source of inspiration for everyone reading.
If you’re a victim, please speak up! Silence kills, honey. Don’t be afraid, cause you’re not alone. And if you’re an accused,
Depression is real and most of us are depressed but we don’t realize it until it’s too late. I pray it won’t be too late for any of us bijahi rosulullah! And if you’re having problems with depression and you want to talk to a professional, please visit my friend’s blog @beCCa’s blog💫 here on word press, for professional advice on how to overcome depression.
I love you so much and remember, silence is never an option!
Tune in next week for another dive into real, touching stories! for now,